It has to be carefully cultivated, and taken care of; it is fragile and liable like a flower to die without the proper attention. This is when the real work begins. Platonic love is much less delicate and can weather these ups and downs. Platonic relationships require especially in the beginning strong boundaries. These are not normally discussed or negotiated the way steps are in romantic relationships, but they hover in the background nonetheless.
As time passes, you will know how far you can push those boundaries, and when you have to pull back. For example, when you travel together — do you share a room?
If you do, will that change if one or both of you gets involved with someone romantically? Platonic love requires a lot of trust. This is especially true when you or your platonic bestie are in a romantic relationship. If your significant other has a platonic BFF, how would that play out for you?
What would be considered OK? Ask yourself these questions, and listen to those feelings. Your gut is often the best indicator of what constitutes crossing the line, and what is acceptable. Although friendship is a give and take partnership, when it comes to platonic love, you have to be careful not to expect or demand more of that person than you would of a regular friendship.
Part of what differentiates platonic from romantic love is expectation. According to Emily Guarnotta , a licensed clinical psychologist and founder of The Mindful Mommy , characteristics of platonic relationships include:.
It's the sense of feeling good and cared for in a relationship," says Nikki Coleman , a licensed psychologist with her own practice Dr. Nikki Knows. There are many benefits of platonic relationships that romantic ones don't always offer. For example, a platonic relationship may entail fewer expectations and pressures, less stress about your physical experience, and possibly a more stable connection as there isn't a fear of breakup, says Guarnotta.
Most notably, platonic relationships are not passionate, which often means they don't include overt sexuality. Platonic relationships also provide an opportunity to explore different parts of yourself and build unique experiences and memories with friends, says Sabrina Romanoff , PsyD, a clinical psychologist at Lenox Hill Hospital.
Cultivating platonic relationships can also help your health. A platonic relationship can involve intimacy, such as sex and cuddling, if romantic feelings aka passion are not involved. You could very well have an important someone in your life who creates all of those feelings of intimacy and closeness associated with platonic love but not romantic love," says Coleman. Intimacy in a platonic relationship only works when both people are on the same page. If one person starts developing romantic feelings and the other doesn't reciprocate, then it could lead to negative feelings like rejection or resentment, says Coleman.
Communicating boundaries is critical for ensuring no one receives or sends mixed signals in a platonic, but sexually intimate, relationship. Platonic relationships differ from romantic relationships but are no less loving or important.
In fact, platonic relationships can provide additional support, respect, and loyalty outside of a romantic partner. Because definitely no sexual love there but romantic and platonic are more similar without including a sexual aspect most people consider with romantic it's so hard to tell the difference.
Do you think if I explained our relationship more someone could help me out on if it's romantic or platonic because I thought it was strong platonic love..? If I actually love her romantically that would be hella awkward because of multiple reasons so that idea actually scares me I hope that's not what it is. Those definitions differ from society to society. Only thing that can be universally considered romantic is love in a life partner type of way and what it drives you to do for a person.
I also want to say that none of this is a spectrum. The grayromantic umbrella is for romantics who relate more to aromantics than they do to the majority of romantics. Star Lion. To me this all sounds like you are a very expressive person. I had a friend sort of like this once, but she expressed her feelings to everyone in our friend group the same way. Ultimately being aromantic or romantic is about intentions rather than observation.
Many of us are okay doing romantic-coded things to different limits. To people watching we might seem to be romantic, but we don't feel those intentions. Love does exist in many forms but if it doesn't feel romantic to you feeling possessiveness and jealousy can be good markers to tell if it is romantic feelings, but not always then it is not romantic. You sound a lot like me. When I feel things for people, especially for my close friends, I feel it very strongly, very intensely.
To some people, it would seem I'm romantically in love, but I'm not. I'm just platonically in love with them. I have 3 friends I feel this strongly for, and I tell them I love them all the time. I get all emotional and stuff with them, and sometimes I can even feel slight possessiveness and jealousy not much, but on occasion , but I know I don't feel it in a romantic way.
I also tend to express my love for them frequently, by drawing them things and sending them nice messages. If I could hug them, I would we are online friends. I chalk this up to this just being my personality. However, as an aro, it's completely platonic. One of my friends I felt especially attached to, and for awhile I considered if I may be romantically in love with her since I don't really know the difference. But nope. I'm beginning to think there is no such thing as "romantic" feelings.
Your feelings are only romantic if you chose to view them that way. If you believe your feelings to only be platonic, then that's what they are. Also, good for you. I'm glad you can have a friend like that. Friends are the best. Yeah, I feel the same way about my best friend. I don't want to date her at all, but what I feel for her is strong enough to be nearly overwhelming.
The intensity of an emotion doesn't change what the emotion is though, right? Platonic love exists, so so does strong platonic love.
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